| No. |
Critical Spirit |
Caring Spirit |
| 1 |
Condemns the person as well as the action
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Condemns the action, but not the person
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| The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing - Proverbs 12:18 |
| 2 |
Focuses on others' faults
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Focuses on our own faults
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| Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? - Luke 6:41 |
| 3 |
Ridicules others
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Encourages others
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| Whoever derides their neighbor has no sense, but the one who has understanding holds their tongue. - Proverbs 11:12 |
| 4 |
Makes judgments based on appearances
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Makes judgments based on facts
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| Jesus presents this imperative – "Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly. - John 7:24 |
| 5 |
Assumes the worst about others
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Assumes the best about others
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| Does our law condemn a man without first hearing him to find out what he has been doing? - John 7:51 |
| 6 |
Tears others down without seeing their unmet needs
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Builds others up according to their inner needs
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| Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen - Ephesians 4:29 |
| 7 |
Publicly criticizes others
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Privately confronts others
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| If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. - Matthew 18:15 |
| 8 |
Reacts pridefully when given advice
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Responds positively when given advice
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| Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. - Proverbs 13:10 |
| 9 |
Lacks mercy toward others
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Extends mercy toward others
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| Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom, because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment - James 2:12-13 |
