| No. |
Conflict |
Violence |
1 |
You argue with conviction about your vision. You may even feel anger, but you are able to listen to the other's point of view |
Either you are the other will attack, or try to overpower the other to impose his-her views |
| 2 |
Both would like to win, but not at the expense of damaging the relationship |
Either one wants so much to win that any means will be considered |
| 3 |
You argue about the subject, not the relationship |
What is at stake is the will to control |
| 4 |
Both are equal, none is afraid of speaking out, or of the other |
The other refrains from speaking up by fear of reactions, or to manage tensions and violence |
| 5 |
Parties are able to admit mistakes and even apologize or make amend |
The dominant party refuse to discuss his view and negotiate, will not admit any mistake and won't be open to any real dialogue |
| 6 |
People around might witness conflicts but won't feel any discomfort, nor fear of intervening |
People around will seldom witness (acting out is kept behind closed doors). People around will fear outburst and refrain from intervening |
| 7 |
Confrontations can be brought up by either party. Roles are not: victim and dominant |
The same roles are back, over and over. One being the victim of the other. |
