| No. |
Kind People |
Nice People |
| 1 |
Feel sincere and real and genuine |
Often feels fake, disingenuine and can be phony |
| 2 |
Want to be kind because it feels good to be kind |
Act nice because it is expected of them by adults or society |
| 3 |
Don't change how they act depending on who is watching |
Want people to notice their niceness |
| 4 |
Don't have ulterior motives... are kind to help |
Often use niceness to get something in return |
| 5 |
Are kind almost often and unconditionally |
Are nice when it suits them / helps them to be nice |
| 6 |
Are kind to everyone, no matter who they are |
Are nice to those who can help them or give them things |
| 7 |
Act with compassion and empathy |
Act with self-serving motives and want to look good |
| 8 |
Ask / wonder 'how can I help others?' |
Ask / wonder 'what is in it for me?' |
| 9 |
Don't act with kindness in order to be liked |
Are often nice because they have a strong desire to be liked |
| 10 |
Can use a strong voice to stand up for themselves and others |
Can get taken advantage of because of their niceness |
| 11 |
Can say "No" and "stop" and be mad... without being mean |
Will stop being friendly or make threats if they get mad |
| 12 |
Don't need to be rewarded by their kindness |
Will only be nice if someone does something for them |
