Reaction And Response

No. Reaction Response 1 You are an idiot! I don't resonate with that 2 You made me feel... I felt... 3 You never ask me about how I feel! I'd appreciate it, if you'd ask about my feelings 4 You are so sensitive. Stop crying right now! I'd really like to help, if you give me permission? 5 Don't yell at me / you are so always so aggressive I'd appreciate if you lower your voice 6 How could you do that to me? I need some space to gather my thoughts 7 Yes, of course I can get that for you / meet you next week I'm not sure if I'll be able to do that right now. Can I think about it.   No. Reacting Responding 1 Limits options Mindfully creates new options 2 Is protective Mindfully can be creative 3 Obeys your fears Mindfully promotes your values. 4 Threatens relationships Mindfully helps relationships heal and grow 5 Flees danger Mindfully approaches opportunity 6 Polarizes Mindfully can unify   No. React Respond 1 Is immediate and emotional Evaluates the situation 2 Concerned with self-preservation Considers values and primary objectives 3 Allows others control Maintains self-control 4 Emotions hijack the outcome Able to influence the outcome 5 Short-term outlook Long-term view