| No. |
Ego Love |
Authentic Love |
| 1 |
I love you based on how you make me feel |
I love who you are as human being |
| 2 |
Attempts to fix, control or change |
Honors flaws, self-expression, + freedom |
| 3 |
Projects unhealed trauma + insecurities |
Owns triggers, apologizes, takes responsibility |
| 4 |
Meet my needs now |
Mutual need meeting |
| 5 |
I need you to be a version of self that feels most comfortable for me |
I support your highest self + work through my own discomfort |
| 6 |
Keeps score of injustices, has tantrums, makes others walk on egg shells |
Can have difficult conversations, communicates clearly |
