| No. |
Shame |
Guilt |
| 1 |
Focus on the entire self |
Focus on the act that harmed them |
| 2 |
Feel bad about who we are |
Feel bad about what we did |
| 3 |
Ask, how could I have done that? |
Ask, how could I have done THAT? |
| 4 |
Feel extreme distress and impairment |
Feel moderate pain |
| 5 |
Believe in no control over adverse outcomes |
Believe in personal control over adverse outcomes |
| 6 |
Desire to shrink, avoid, escape |
Feel tension and remorse |
| 7 |
Motivated to hide or attack self or others |
Motivated to repair damage, made amends |
| 8 |
Blame others, find scapegoats |
Take personal responsibility |
