| No. |
Enmeshed Relationships |
Boundaried Relationships |
1 |
Conflict feels threatening like it could damage the relationship or offend the other person |
Conflict feels safe and results in an opportunity to learn more about each other |
| 2 |
The other person's dreams or change feel worrisome if they don't involve you |
You celebrate each other's goals and their growth does not threaten the stability of the partnership |
| 3 |
Someone's boundaries are regularly shut down or belittled |
Each person's preferences are heard and respected |
| 4 |
You feel a sense of anxiety when you are apart from the other person |
Distance from one another feels safe and is seen as an opportunity to foster growth and vitality |
| 5 |
Topics are regularly swept under the rug |
Potential issues are openly discussed |
| 6 |
Creates distance |
Encourages connection |
