| No. |
Ego-based people-pleasing |
Compassion-based communication |
1 |
Obscuring the truth to avoid looking like the 'bad guy' |
Delivering hard truths with compassion and tact |
| 2 |
Deflecting tough decisions to others so you don't have to take responsibility for them |
Making and communication tough calls that will lead to healthy long-term outcomes |
| 3 |
Avoiding important conflicts so you don't have to feel like someone's angry with you |
Bringing areas of potential conflict to the table as soon as they arise so you can work through them |
| 4 |
Staying silent about your needs and growing resentful when they're not met |
Making your needs known so others can meet and respect them |
| 5 |
Believing the root of your problems is that you're 'too nice' |
Understanding that true kindness requires self-respect; anything less is validation-seeking |
